We each have our own special journey - even Happy

 

I was reading Julie and Julia last night, not that I’m planning to make any of those recipes. What struck me is the commitment each day to make one meal. I decided that this blob – as my mother refers to my blog — is going to be recipes for life. Each day I’m going to try to send out an inspiring thought to help you make the most of your day. Then we can string along a string of great days that add up to the next best chapter of our life.

To further the theme from yesterday about leaving the people we love alone…My friend, I’ll call her Jill, to make it a threesome of Julie, Julia and Jill, has a kid – an adult now but still her kid – who just made a decision in her life that has permanent consequences. Jill is devastated because she knows that what we choose for ourselves when we’re 24 is not necessarily what we would choose at 44. We have the knowledge that comes with living.

We’re each heroes of our own life stories. And our loved ones are the heroes of their own life stories. I’d love to be able to protect people I love from mistakes. I’d love my kids to learn from my mistakes. But that’s impossible. We are all on our own journeys. We can light up the way for each other but the steps we each take are our own

When I’m scared about someone I love, I close my eyes and swath them gently in a cozy blanket and then let them go. I remind myself that they are being taken care of. Maybe not in the way that I would choose to take care of them…but there’s nothing I can do about that. I have to accept their choices. I have to trust that they are on their own special journey just like I’m on mine.

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About dianabletter

Diana Bletter is a writer living in northern Israel whose novel, A Remarkable Kindness, is forthcoming from HarperCollins in August. Her work has appeared in The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, Commentary, tabletmag, and other publications. Her first book, The Invisible Thread: A Portrait of Jewish American Women (with photographs by Lori Grinker) was nominated for a National Jewish Book Award.
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  1. Fabiola Schultz says:

    This post is appropos for what is giving me today’s headache: the choices loved ones make that have life-long consequences over which I am powerless to protect them. Even my neck is stiff. A long walk is called for to get some happy endorphins going and get some detachment juices activated. Thanks so much for the reminder.

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